Ask A FEA – Gayla DeHart on Stress and Wellbeing

A glimpse at stress and wellbeing: Now that we are in the “messy middle” of the pandemic, what suggestions do you have for families on managing stress in this “new reality”?

GAYLA: It is important for each family member to commit to taking care of themselves and to taking the steps that will help him/her/they cope as constructively as possible with stress during this uncertain time. Top tips — Meditate, exercise, eat well, get lots of sleep and keep in close touch with your circle of support (family or otherwise). Stressed individuals lead to stressed families, so it starts with each of us. Be patient with yourself and be patient with each other.

Addressing the long term: How can families maintain a healthy relationship dynamic during this time of crisis, with no end in sight? What are the strategies for managing over the long haul?

GAYLA: Remember that everyone deals with stress in their own way. Some people will cope by watching more Netflix, some by exercising more than usual. Some will want to stay abreast of the news in order to be informed and create a sense of understanding of the state of the world, while others will want to stay away from the news because it makes them feel helpless. This is all normal and we are all different. Try not to judge.

Stronger together: Everyone has a different relationship to risk. What are some steps families can take to ensure all voices are considered?

GAYLA: Have regular meetings and be willing and open to hear things that you might not want to hear. Make it safe for everyone to say what is on their mind. Remember that giving someone a voice does not mean that you are giving them a vote, rather you are fostering an environment to bring people along, or at least have them sense that their opinions and feelings matter. Engaged family members are a good thing, and getting the perspective of another strengthens your ability to find the best solutions.